I invited my friends on facebook to comment/write their views on the matter; “What cause marriage conflicts/breakups of relationships in general?”
In 1 sentence or 2 this is what they had to say:
Neo Vinolia Ramatong,“Infidelity for one.”
Precious Madonsela, “lack of honesty & commitment.”
Monica Ncongwane, “Lies and emotional abuse”
Mpho Mothobi, “I agree wt Neo infidelity, da main reazn.”
Fanboy Khusi, “Amanga nokungethembani Mfundisi.”
Sammy Mondlane-Pitso, “Relationship with no respect will never survive.”
Precious Ndlovu, “Dishonesty,cheatin an nt respectin 1 anotha.”
“oh yes respect 4 each other also plays a major role in a relationship”
“Yes sago fele sa hlola but in marriage only death shall part de 2.”
“Thanks 4 de topic. we need 2 be reminded once in a while wat love, relationships n marriage is all about...”
Karabo Rabothata, “we wl talk n talk,de truth is;sa go se fele,se ya tlhola.we hv 2 accept gore ke nature.finish n klaar.”
Khombi Masine, “lv is lyk a WAR, IS EAZY 2 START BT DIFFICULT 2 END. Pride!!!”
“And we 4gt dt once u replace sm1 u wll alwyz hv a repetation of replycment!”
Lerato Mazibuko, “Lack of tolerance and high expectations.”
Lets look the scripture in the book of Genesis when God created man (Adam). From the beginning of the creation, God and Adam were very very close. They did everything together. The talked mouth to mouth. They were always walking together in the garden of Eden, and there were no secretes between them. Adam was God’s right hand man who was entrusted and given full responsibilities to take care of God’s precious property (Garden of Eden).
We note that; God and Adam communicated frequently to keep their relationship strong, and to ensure that God’s instructins were carried properly.
COMMUNICATION plays a very important role in keeping a healthy relationship between 2 people. We note that God and Adam were always together.
STAY CLOSE TO ONE ANOTHER: I don’t believe in long distance relationships. Sorry! That gap beween you can be a problem in your relationship. We note that God trusted Adam.
TRUST is one important component in a healthy relatisonship. Do not lie to one another; do good for your partner even if he/she is not in your sight; stop assumptions; stop making sole decisions. Just be trusted; no secretes!
What caused devision between God and Adam? The third party. In this case the third party was Eve. Adam spent much time with Eve than God; Adam trusted Eve than God. After that we see Adam going against the ruling of God. Eve became a third party in God/Man relationship, and that created division between the 2. When a relationship is broken no one cares between. We see God punishing his best friend, because He felt betrayed.
What was supposed to be a blessing became a curse!
A snake in the same story became a third party between Adam and Eve; and between God and men (people).
The moment Even spent time with the snake, she then spent less time with the husband. She had to start buying to the lies of the snake; trusting the snake because she communicated much with it. She trusted in the snake that she ended up doing whatever the snake said she must do which was gainst the principle of Adam and God.
The most important components in a healthy relationship are;
• Communication
• Trust
• Staying Closer to One Another
Don’t ever allow a third substance in your relationship. A third party maybe relatives, friends, boy and girlfriends (external relationships), children of your own, lack of money, having lots of money, lack of materials such as cars, a house etc. Do not allow this to divide you!!!
